The American Journal of Psychoanalysis

, Volume 78, Issue 1, pp 28–46 | Cite as

Ethical Presence in the Psychoanalytic Encounter and the Role of Apology*

  • Micha Weiss


This paper discusses aspects of ethical presence in psychoanalysis, and the possible use of apology in the therapeutic process. The author roughly delineates two periods in the history of psychoanalysis regarding the ethical dimension—the early classical period which is influenced by Freud’s ethics of honesty, which gradually evolves towards the more recent intersubjectively-influenced period, necessitating the assimilation of an ethics of relationships. It is suggested that explicit theorizing of the ethical dimension into psychoanalysis offers added value to its effectiveness, and a framework is presented for combining relational, intersubjectively informed ethical dialogue, with contributions of classical technique, enriching the therapeutic potential of psychoanalytic work.


ethics ethical dialogue apology in psychoanalysis therapeutic potential of ethical presence 


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  • Micha Weiss
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  1. 1.GivatayimIsrael

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