Addressing Issues of Sexuality in Couples Therapy: Emotionally Focused Therapy Meets Sex Therapy
Purpose of Review
The purpose of this article is to describe the use of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples presenting with sexual concerns and how to integrate sex therapy interventions with EFT.
Sexual issues always present in the relational context and typically have a significant impact on intimate relationships. Literature on attachment theory and sexuality indicates that in long-term committed relationships, attachment and sexual behavioral motivational systems overlap with attachment systems playing a significant role in creating security and safety for optimal sexuality. Research on effectiveness of medical sex interventions reflects the importance of integrating psychological approaches, as well as working systemically with clients and their intimate partners. EFT can be used successfully to improve sexual satisfaction of distressed couples, as well as to improve effectiveness of sex therapy interventions.
EFT with its emphasis on distilling emotional experience and guiding couples to create a more secure bond offers a model for addressing many sexual concerns and a more successful implementation of sex therapy interventions. This article explores the Emotionally Focused approach to dealing with sexual problems and the implications of this attachment-oriented perspective for our understanding of sexuality and the treatment of sexual issues. Recent research on psychological interventions for sexual dysfunctions is reviewed. Principles of addressing sexual concerns in EFT, as well as ways to integrate behavioral sex therapy interventions, are described and examples given.
KeywordsEmotionally focused therapy Sexuality Couples therapy Sex therapy Attachment theory
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Susan M. Johnson, Zoya Simakhodskaya, and Michael Moran declare no conflicts of interest.
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