Journal of Happiness Studies

, Volume 16, Issue 6, pp 1635–1637 | Cite as

The Mythical Myths of Happiness

Sonja Lyubomirsky: The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn’t, What Shouldn’t Make You Happy but Does. The Penquin Press, New York, 2013, 299 pp, ISBN: 978-1-59420-437-1
  • Ad Bergsma
Review Article

Suppose I have divorce fantasies and ask myself the classic question: ‘Should I stay or should I go?’. This is not an easy position to be in, so I turn to a marriage counselor for advice. After hearing my predicament, she answers: ‘The sooner you consider the research, the sooner you will be prepared to make a decision based on reason rather than intuition.’ She goes on to explain that I should remember that having the right partner will not bring me one hundred percent happiness all the time and that maybe divorce isn’t the answer. On the other hand, she continues, divorce does not irreparably harm most children according to the majority of studies.

I personally would appreciate the information given by the counselor, for it would allow me to make an informed decision, but I would not pay her a second because her counseling was not in contact with my reality. Going through all the relevant facts laid out in a number of meta-analyses on divorce and its consequences, will not make my...


Positive Psychology Practical Wisdom Wicked Problem Happiness Study Happiness Research 
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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Erasmus University RotterdamRotterdamThe Netherlands

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