Mindfulness

, Volume 9, Issue 2, pp 500–511 | Cite as

Practicing Self-Compassion Weakens the Relationship Between Fear of Receiving Compassion and the Desire to Conceal Negative Experiences from Others

  • Jessica R. Dupasquier
  • Allison C. Kelly
  • David A. Moscovitch
  • Vanja Vidovic
ORIGINAL PAPER

Abstract

Disclosure of personal distress is linked to important interpersonal and intrapersonal benefits. However, people who tend to view self-disclosure as being risky are likely to conceal their feelings and forgo opportunities to receive valuable social support. One such group of people may be those who fear receiving compassion. The current study of 85 female undergraduates investigated (a) whether fear of receiving compassion would predict decreased distress disclosure and (b) whether inducing a self-compassionate mindset could help to temper the association between fear of receiving compassion and perceived risks of revealing one’s distress to others. Participants completed self-report questionnaires to measure trait-like fears of receiving compassion as well as general distress disclosure tendencies. They were then enrolled in a laboratory experiment in which they recalled a personal past negative experience and were randomly assigned to write about it in a self-compassionate, self-esteem enhancing, or non-directive way. Finally, they rated how risky disclosing their experience would feel and disclosed the event in a written letter to another person. At a trait level, results indicated that the more participants feared receiving compassion, the less they tended to disclose. Moreover, self-compassion training—but neither of the comparison conditions—significantly weakened the positive link between fear of receiving compassion and perceived risks of distress disclosure. These novel findings suggest that practicing self-compassion could help to neutralize the maladaptive relationship between fear of receiving compassion and perceived risk of disclosure.

Keywords

Self-compassion Self-disclosure Distress disclosure Fear of compassion 

Notes

Acknowledgements

Special thanks to Ariella Lenton-Brym for her assistance in organizing and collecting the data for this project.

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Conflicts of Interest

The authors declare that they have no conflict of interest.

Ethical Approval

All procedures performed in studies involving human participants were in accordance with the ethical standards of the institutional and/or national research committee and with the 1964 Helsinki declaration and its later amendments or comparable ethical standards.

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Authors and Affiliations

  • Jessica R. Dupasquier
    • 1
  • Allison C. Kelly
    • 1
  • David A. Moscovitch
    • 1
  • Vanja Vidovic
    • 1
  1. 1.Department of Psychology and Centre for Mental Health ResearchUniversity of WaterlooWaterlooCanada

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