Perceived playfulness in same-sex friendships and happiness

  • Melikşah DemirEmail author


The current investigation examined the association of perceived playfulness in same-sex best friendships with happiness. Study 1 (N = 1009) showed that playfulness was related to and accounted for unique variance in subjective well-being even when controlling for the Big Five dimensions of personality, relationship quality and conflict. Study 2 (N = 277) showed that personal sense of uniqueness mediated the association of playfulness with affect balance. The findings suggest that perceived playfulness is a reliable correlate of individual happiness, and directions for future are provided.


Perceived playfulness Same-sex friendship Happiness Personal sense of uniqueness Mediation 


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  1. 1.Department of Psychological SciencesNorthern Arizona UniversityFlagstaffUSA

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