Online Dating in Singapore: The Desire to Have Children

  • Voon Chin PhuaEmail author
  • Keyana P. Moody
Original Paper


Low fertility has been a concern in Singapore. While there are studies examining the causes, few studies have used online dating services as a source of data to examine the desire of Singaporeans to have children. Yet, research on mate and date selection using online personals is prolific, arguing that online personals are a valuable source of information for social analysis. Using a data set that was collected in 2007 and in 2015 from a website for Singapore online dating, we examined the factors influencing whether Singaporeans expressed wanting children in their personals. We find that preference for a committed relationship is the strongest predictor for the desire to have children. The age effects are as expected. Women are less likely to express they want children in these personals.


Singapore Fertility Online dating Wanting children 



We would like to thank Professor Desirée Ciambrone for her insightful comments and editorial assistance. We would also like to thank Raichl Davenport, Li Fong Chen and Ambika Kirkland for their assistance with data entry.

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Conflict of interest

Both authors declare that they have no conflict of interest.

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This article does not contain any studies with human participants or animals performed by any of the authors.


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  1. 1.Gettysburg CollegeGettysburgUSA

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