Expanding Our Understanding of Women’s Sexual Desire

  • Margaret NicholsEmail author

I was initially enthusiastic about writing a Commentary for the Target Article by Cherkasskaya and Rosario (2018). I know and admire Rosario’s work, I have been a sex therapist for 35 years, and I have written frequently about lesbian sexual desire (Nichols, 2004, 2005). After reading the paper, I began to doubt my ability to contribute to this discourse. I am neither an academic nor a researcher; I have only a cursory knowledge of the attachment theory literature and do not practice from an attachment theory perspective; moreover, my knowledge of statistical methodological is vastly outdated. However, I am a clinician who has worked for decades with many women complaining of low desire, and in particular with lesbian and bisexual/pansexual women with this problem. I also keep current on the literature on female desire. My Commentary is written from this mostly experiential perspective.

There is much to applaud in this paper. To begin with, Cherkasskaya and Rosario (2018) are to be...



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  1. 1.Institute for Personal GrowthHighland ParkUSA

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