Toward Women Wanting

  • Deborah L. TolmanEmail author
  • Jennifer F. Chmielewski

In their Target Article, “The Relational and Bodily Experiences Theory of Sexual Desire in Women” (RBET), Cherkasskaya and Rosario (2018) leverage Freud’s much quoted query “What do women want?” to reformulate the question that the field has been exploring: “How women come to want and desire?” Predicated on an insightful critique of the literatures on women’s sexual desire, they offer a theory of internalized representations of relational and bodily experiences. The RBET is a thoughtful step forward in positing feminist analyses and psychological mechanisms to inform and explain women’s sexual desire. We applaud the critiques that underpin how Cherkasskaya and Rosario’s model configures the conceptualization and derivation of women’s sexual desire. We concur strongly that both relational experiences and sense of oneself as a sexual being have been shown to be part and parcel of women’s desire and that emphasizing these factors in the context of the extant models of (women’s) sexual...


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of Women and Gender StudiesHunter CollegeNew YorkUSA
  2. 2.Program in Critical Social PsychologyThe Graduate Center of the City University of New YorkNew YorkUSA

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