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The grieving child: Manifest and hidden losses in childhood and adolescence


The loss of parents through abandonment has specific traumatic features. This paper discusses the variety of losses children and adolescents may experience and the psychological implications and manifestations in relation to the loss. Specific reactions of children and suggestions for therapeutic prevention through psychotherapy are discussed.

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Mishne, J. The grieving child: Manifest and hidden losses in childhood and adolescence. Child Adolesc Soc Work J 9, 471–490 (1992).

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  • Social Psychology
  • Specific Reaction
  • Psychological Implication
  • Loss Child
  • Traumatic Feature